Is Virginity all About Presence of a Hymen?

Virginity is an old time belief passed from generation to generation among human beings, though the term is also applied to animals, birds and other inanimate things and objects. Though talked about generally by every person, only a few people reach the same definition or description of what virginity really is.

Questions arise as to the definition of virginity. Does virginity apply to all people, both men and women? Is there a sure way of telling one is a virgin? Can it be restored once lost? When should one lose it? Is virginity a case of not having penetrative sex? Some of these and many more other questions can be answered but others remain unanswered.

Virginity applies to both males and females of all species and other inanimate things and objects. It is common to hear people talk of virgin land; meaning land that has never been put into prior use, and other applications of the term virgin.

Though applied to men, it is pretty difficulty to proof their virginity. It can only be told from their lack of exposure which makes them inexperienced when it comes to acts of sex. Hence physically, one can not tell a virgin male from another.

It is commonly believed that the presence of hymen on the vaginal opening means that a lady is a virgin. By this description, then a lady can be judged a virgin once the hymen is confirmed. However, it has been proved that it is possible to engage in sex and still leave the hymen intact. This is possible where the hymen is very elastic and does not cover a large portion of the vulva hence sex can take place without rupturing the hymen.

Though not many, there are a few women who are born with poorly formed hymen or with the whole hymen lacking. In this case, although they not have engaged in penetrative sex, it will be hard to proof they are virgins.

There are also cases of women with very brittle hymen. When these women engage in strenuous exercises such as cycling, climbing and others, the hymen gets torn hence making them lose their ‘virginity’.

Civilization and modern has made it possible to get anything literally including restoring virginity. Women who are very amorous engage in indiscriminate sex but when the time comes to proof their virginity, especially when married in those set-ups that require a lady to be a virgin before getting married, they secure hymen replacement surgery which makes them intact again. Although this is possible, it is very costly.

In many societies, virginity is believed to be the lack of know how on sex. For one to qualify for the title, whether a man or woman, they should be ignorant of sex. These same societies do not look at the different ways through which a lady or man can enjoy sexual fulfillment.

There are those who, due to the personal reasons, shun penetrative sex but engage in other forms of sexual fulfillment, alone or in the company of the opposite sex. For the case of the lady, this leaves the hymen intact.

A good description of virginity should take into account all aspects of sexual enjoyment. I strongly believe that a person who has masturbated, had fellatio who in any way had their private parts touched or touched those of someone else should not be termed a virgin even if the touch did not lead to either of them orgasming.

Virginity is discriminative on that only women can account for its physical presence. Many communities allow men to wander around with women but these same women should be virgins on marriage even when being married by the same men.

If virginity can be described as ignorance to sex or the innocence of any individual, any one who watches blue movies, engages in ‘dirty’ talk or dance, or lusts should not be termed as a virgin. Let us not take it that its only our women who should be virgins or who should wait till marriage or that the lack of hymen means lack of virginity. Virginity is not only the presence of virginity, there is more to it.

To be sure whether one is a virgin or not, consider the following pointers.
• Should virginity only apply girls?
• Is virginity how one views themselves or how the society views it?
• Does rape or molestation erode virginity?
• Is actual penetration the only way to lose virginity
• Are you still a virgin if you engage, willingly, in other intimate acts?
• When do homosexual or bisexuals lose their virginity?
• Is virginity an issue of believe or feelings or both?
• Do emotions count in losing virginity? i.e. if you felt good or not.

A person should try their level best to maintain their virginity until such a time when they feel very ready and when they also feel that the person they are with is the best in their life and that they won’t regret the action later in life. In case of a lady, penetrative sex should be delayed as much as possible, may be until they are ready to marry or into the marriage.

Abstinence is the surety way to avoid regrets in life. Regrets brought about by break-ups, betrayal or diseases that come from engaging in sexual contact. No one ever died from lack of sex or sexual fulfillment.